I’ve been consuming a bunch of Alex Hormozi’s content lately and in one of his appearances on The Iced Coffee Hour one of the host’s, ironically named Alex as well, was talking about being overweight. He had a realisation and said that he was overweight, and he eats because he’s hungry and Alex Hormozi immediately called him out and said, “no you’re not, you’re bored.” When he said this, I felt like he was talking to me because it’s exactly one of the ways I cope with boredom. I think a little more accurately is when I’m bored, lazy and lacking discipline I want to eat kai that I know is bad for me but is delicious. I’ve been thinking about how many times I’ve lost weight and gained weight over the years and how I’m overweight most of the time and I get annoyed with myself for getting here again and again. I believe that what Alex Hormozi said was one of the big reasons and it makes a shit load of sense. It’s made me hyper-aware of when I’m bored and I’m curious to see how I react moving forward. I’m gonna work on systems to help me move through my boredom more healthily and less destructively.
Since we’re on the thread of talking about how I cope with boredom, another way I do this is by wanking. Boredom has become a trigger and in hindsight, there are a shit load of times throughout my days I’d feel hungry or horny, so I’d either go eat or go wank. They’re both ways I procrastinate and fall into the spiral of feeling sorry for myself and eventually into a rut. It’s crazy to think about how addictive these behaviours have become and I’m so glad I can see them and am more aware of the reason why.
The last way I cope with boredom is scrolling on my phone or on the computer. This is easily the most destructive coping mechanism in my life, because it’s easily accessible and makes me feel good, sad, shit, happy, all in a single scrolling session. I never feel like doing work after a long enough session too.
I’m learning that making changes in these areas is gonna take a shit load of consistent work... A SHIT LOAD!